Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage

Some time back, when i was chatting with my friends, i was asked a question  whether  you  prefer arranged marriage or love marriage. There were about  ten of us discussing this topic and many had the opinion  that the love marriage is better as you get to know  each other better. I was the last one to put my opinion  and i  started  expressing my perspective.

First of all every selection or decision has got an advantage and disadvantage and it depends on the individuals perspective. My friends interrupted me and informed not to be philosophical and not to putforth general view and   asked me to choose one out of two choices. I chose  Arranged Marriage.

I continued. I am opting arranged marriage for the following reasons

Ø  Just because you are in love, you can get to know each other, understand the feelings, but one can never declare that you have understood your partner in full. The real test of character comes when you start to live. The compromise and understanding at the time of love making need not/is not be of the original character of the person because of overcautionness.

Ø  Even arranged marriage will allow you to get to know the person. Once you or your parents select few months before the marriage, there is every option of meeting each other and understands the mind,goal and future plannings. I would say,here,one will not show his/her impression management skills  but to explain the real thoughts. So  one can make feel whether the partner suits his mind, aspirations and character. The decision can be more accurate if the couple decides to proceed further or depart at this stage.

On the contrary, love happens because of the young blood and attractiveness to each other. The initial period will always be impression management. Once there is   enough acquantaincy and bonding, then will be the question of  marriage or future planning. At this stage, there could be discrepancy which  may lead to breaking of relationship

Ø  You may ruin your career plans, educations and enjoyment of your life if you are in love. Many feel difficult to come out  if there is a departure. The lovers will be in their own world and spending too much time over phone and dating may disturb/affect the need of their attention in real life. So better enjoy your  bachelor life in full before entering into wedlock right?